Keith Johnson – Page 11 – Lover Of The Least

Everyman’s Battle – We need REAL Men around here! Men of honor and Decency, Men with their hands where they belong, and their eyes and minds focused on Christ.

Are you that Man?………a Real Man? A Man of honor and decency? I must tell you…….I have failed this test many times……..giving my eyes and mind to Christ first and my wife, second!!

Just a few questions to get you thinking………..

Ever felt unsaved because of your insatiable lust for women? Sooooo shamed and guilty and deeply flawed……an evil person……a total loser! NO victory over Lust…….Alone…….not able to share it with your friends??
Ever doubted yourself……loss after loss after temptation after loss after temptation after loss………small wins but falling right back into lust??
Ever felt judged by this verse? Matthew 5: 27-28???
Ever doubted these promises? Isaiah 1:18?? Romans 8:33-39
Ever longed for Holiness but never felt like you had a chance in Hell to get it??
Ever used lust in the form of porn or masturbation to feel better after a tough day or week at work or argument with your wife?
Ever been told by your wife that sex is robotic, void of feeling and passion?
- One wife said………”When my husband and I talked about this, he was honest and I was very angry with him. I was hurt. I felt deeply betrayed because I’d been dieting and working out to keep my weight down so that I would always look nice to him. I couldn’t figure out why he still needed to look at other women.”
- And the author’s wife…….”I don’t want to sound mean, but because women don’t generally experience this problem, it seems to us that some men are uncontrolled perverts who don’t think about anything but sex. It affects my trust in men, knowing that pastors and deacons could have this problem………many men have this problem. Since most men are affected, we really can’t call you guys perverts?

Anybody pass the test on page 26-27????? What a stupid question!!!

TAKE THIS TEST

Do you lock on when an attractive woman comes near you? Smelling and looking fine……..ANSWER…only if I have a heart beat!!!
Do you masturbate to images of other women? Other than my wife…..Answer…….Only if I still have my penis!!
Have you found your wife to be less sexually satisfying? Only if I am into Fantasy PORN…..if I love her with Agape love……It is “mind blowing” SEX.
Are you holding a grudge against your wife………a grudge that gives you a sense of entitlement? Do you mean an entitlement to masturbate?? I have in the past.
Do you seek out sexually arousing articles or photo spreads in newspapers or magazines? Only if I am wearing my glasses!!
Do you have a private place or secret compartment that you keep hidden from your wife? In order to look at porn and jack off!!??? I used to.
Do you look forward to going away on a business trip? In order to jack off on PORN??? I used to…..now I dread it because I miss daily sex.

Rampant Masturbation – Wow!! and That’s only on Page 2…Ephesians 5:3

What is Sexual Integrity?? You don’t want to miss this book on Saturday!!!
Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series)

Our Stories

Eph 5:3 “must not even be named among you”

“A Banquet of Glistening Flesh” “Lithe figure”……and then BLAM!! Right into the back of a Chevelle!!!!

Although I had committed my life to Sandy, I had not committed my eyes to her. 10 more years of darkness until I realized I needed to change how I looked at women.

Hope for the Hopeless…………….5 years in CA…..4 full time girlfriends……sleeping with 3 and engaged to 2….”He’s a hopeless pig!!!”

Paying the Price……….No one’s getting hurt!!

Calvary – Was it meant for You? Was it Meant for Me? It is WHY we can ESTEEM our wives.

Brothers:

Really enjoyed yesterday morning and meeting our newest Brother, Vince. Always good to see the wise sage, Bob Miller, as well. My wife reminded me this morning of our wedding almost 25 years ago and the wonderful songs that were sung. This is one of our favorites:

I said that I would die for Him,
I really thought I could
But there I was denying Him
I never thought I would!
I failed the Lord, I let him down,
After all He’s done for me;
And now He’s walking up a hill,
A hill called Calvary.

Calvary, Calvary, was it meant for Him?
Was it meant for me?
Calvary, Calvary;
Is that my cross He’s taking to Calvary?

He found me in my sin and told me,
“Go and sin no more,”
And ever since that day I’m not
The way I was before;
I only came to thank Him for
The life He gave to me;
But there He’s going up a hill,
A hill called Calvary.

Calvary, Calvary, was it meant for Him?
Was it meant for me?
Calvary, Calvary;
Is that my cross He’s taking to Calvary?

Many of you also missed a great hike at Bad Creek…….we will plan another next week.
Next Saturday, its Esteem……the last act of love our wives need from us……..CHAPTER 14
Treat your wife well and “your prayers will not be hindered” – 1 Peter 3:7

Live In UNDERSTANDING
C-O-U-P-L-E = all connected to Esteem = the 6 parts of Love to your wife
Cherish and Esteem her and she will not sing with Aretha – “R-E-S-P-E-C-T”
Song of Solomon 7:6
Proverbs 31 – Do you Rise Up and PRAISE your Wife in Public???
The Most Loved Woman on Earth!!
Your Love Motivates her Respect, and her Respect motivates your love!
Her Self-Worth = Tied to the Family
Symbols Count to Women – Song of Solomon 8:6
Birthdays are a Big Deal – Only Women Give Birth — Jeremiah 30:6– Thank God for that!!!!!!!
Anniversary = Big Deal
Hey Blake……..let me show you my Wedding Album…..”do you think the Tux made my Butt look fat??
Take your Pick —-A Rock or a BMW??? Which one will she remember??
Learn How to Read Her Mind!!! By giving her options………
You make me Happy! Your Wife wants to make you Happy! She gets her Esteem from making you Happy

You make me feel so young
You make me feel like spring has sprung
Every time I see you grin

I’m such a happy an individual
You make me feel so young
You make me feel there are songs to be sung
Bells to be rung and a wonderful spring to be sprung

And even when I’m old and gray
I’m gonna feel the way I do today
‘Cause you make me feel so young

Make her Feel Esteemed by:

Opening the Door for her
Speak highly of her
Try something new with her like HCG or Reset/Detox
Notice her hair or Clothes
Tell her you are Proud of her

LOYALTY – She Needs To Know You’re Committed

For Better or For Worse? Will you still love me for worse or just Better??
Don’t Joke with this one – Song of Solomon 2:10
WHY do you love me? Let me Count the Ways…….
Do you remember WHY you first loved your wife? Why do you love her today? Has anything changed??
Are you a ONE-Woman Man?
Don’t Look………not sot easy on this Swimsuit issue planet – Job 3:11
“Until Death do you part” or Is it “Until Divorce Do you part???
Don’t Leave Home Without One – American Express Card?
“Going through the Big D and I don’t mean Dallas” – Never say the “D” Word
Malachi 2:14-15 – For I Hate Divorce
Robertson McQuilkin – Proverbs 20:6 – 42 years of debt
Did Tammy Wynnette have it right? Stand by your……………………
Part of a Woman’s spirit = Loyalty – Be Especially Good to your Daughters
Golf or Your Wife’s Funeral? Tough Choice??
Things to Consider:

Why does your wife speak more highly of you in public than you speak highly of her?
Get involved in her life and what she likes to do.
Help make decisions with the children.
Do not correct her in front of the Children.
Stop gawking at other Women.
Make sure the Kids Respect her.

Love and Respect – Chapter 12 – PEACEMAKING – She wants You To Say, “I’m Sorry”

C-O-U-P-L-E: PEACEMAKING

Connectivity = Definition? “We just know it when it is present and when it’s not.”
The 4th Side to Connectivity = Peacemaking
Some Conflict is Good but don’t let the sparks burn down the house.
Isaiah 54:5-8
Those who marry will have trouble……I Cor 7:28
Husband and wife should not act independently but act together. I Cor 7:3-4
Getting Historical = Reconciliation
Real Men Say They Are Sorry…………I Peter 3:8
Romans 12:18
Don’t just Drop It……….Address it…….don’t shut down a conversation.